Problems of Blame
I am reading this article - https://www.currentaffairs.org/news/2018/05/fear-of-the-sjw - and readmitting to myself that Commentators are in the business of being insufferable. I include myself in that group. I also have at least one child that seems to be instructed professionally to avoid me, if you can believe what the "victim" says. I am blamed for troubles and I am to never have contact unless I "behave myself", which triggers my reaction that the adult child can have relations with me (honor the father) as they wish but I am not going to react well to being some sort of public "pariah", if that is what "behave myself" is supposed to mean.
I think it is useful to mention that one's inability to reach their highest potential cannot be fully "blamed" on any one outside of yourself, including your parents. I readily admit that the circumstances of one's birth and raising can make success more difficult to achieve, especially for groups that insist that they are "victims" or "systemically oppressed". There will always be obstacles to one's journey such as cranky supervisors that enjoy inhibiting you for some reason, private or public. One can certainly let such obstacles swell into insurmountable barriers if they so choose, insisting that such things stand aside and escort them to some reward upon request. Life doesn't work that way and more importantly, life shouldn't work in that way, rewarding the shiftless for very little.
Of course, there are enough examples of those who enjoy a seemingly greased track to success, which is what many SJW types bemoan and demand to level. It is insincere to say that a person who owns a business gives their child an executive position should translate into "white privilege" publicly and demands that no company should be allowed to do such a thing unless 51% of that executive post be filled by an unnamed woman (oops, vagina-ed or mascara-ed entity), 17% to a random someone of dark pigment, and .1% to a barfly that might have given a vague impression that they might welcome a bi-sexual encounter. All of these attributes are being shouted and pressed to become qualifications for all roles. We now learn that their must either be a thousand classifications for each Olympic sport or we must eliminate all such classifications in the name of simple sanity. Very graphically, we have a US vice-president who was very vocally chosen because she was "black" and a "woman", both attributes which media "appropriation" both decries and cheers in haphazard ways. There are few "authentic" members of any group but everyone must twist and stretch like champions to appease a category and new fluidity. For example, we must now cheer biological male swimmers winning "women's competitions" and rules are being drawn up to codify such situations.
This is all indicative of the newly-swelled values of "meaning" and "belonging" as a substitute for "reality". For instance, I am a "bad father" because, for some of my children, that puts them into some advantageous and social profitable groups. A decently-worded "sob story" will get student loans paid off and may get some judge to insist on my making cash payments to a child that "hates" me as a summary judgement. You might choose to scoff, but the current climate trends in that way and similar "that will never happen" attitudes have been easily overcome. We will soon have parents being jailed for their children's schoolhouse shoot-outs because "they should have seen this coming" and reported such to the authorities. Turn in your children to the authorities and you will will still be punished as a "bad" parent. No wonder modern young adults don't want to have anything to do with children! In a society that best values looking virtuous and feeling good, without authentically accomplishing either, it is best to do nothing and reap the rewards of simply "being", even if you are essentially nothing more than an oxygen burner.
This leads to the universe in which people who have rarely striven and do practically nothing feel that they should get the same accolades and income of Fortune 500 CEOs. This explains the recent resurgence of "socialism" not just taking resources from the rich and redistributing it to all (aka the poor), but demanding social respect that only the accomplished received in the past. And if these people don't get what they want in terms of "respect" or personal "meaning", they will willing murder the modern equivalent of the Tzar and take what they want, as in Lenin and Stalin. Our modern "Robin Hoods" are very willing to execute millions beyond the dreams of Mao to eliminate all who question their "social justice" oligarchy, not just metaphorically but actually killing those who will not "share the wealth" of ephemeral things such as oxygen or the climate. They have been threatening to kill those who dismiss them for some years now, but they may soon get genocidal tools to make good on their threats. Biological agents (like CoVid-2) can be tailored to wipe out those pesky "white" people and an "vaccine" (antidote) can save proper-thinking "I'm not really white" overlords who know they can enslave others through graciously letting them hop a border and get money-envelopes to surrender their last usefulness (their vote) to their current bread-givers only interested in retaining power over everyone.
So, when you child says nasty things about you and gets some therapist to stamp a label on them, they are asserting their authority to destroy you, socially and financially and probably homicidally, so they can be your "social justice" overlord and glut themselves on whatever you worked to achieve. They deserve it because of their superior "victim" virtue and you don't because you refuse to give them everything they want for nothing (so it becomes moral to take it). Your kid may already be doing to you and you delude yourself into thinking that you are the parent here - so naive. They will turn you in to child protective services or shoot up a school and you will go to prison (if you are lucky) and they will get all of your possessions and funds in some structured settlement from some court. They will crow about their accomplishment and seed the next family disaster.
You have been warned!